The idea of marrying somebody can actually ruin the union. Some people are very happy together for decades and they get this fantasy idea of going to get married and it’s just about papers. Signing papers. Eventually, it just goes sour.
And he’s not the only one who shares this opinion. Back in 2009, Oprah had this to say during an interview:
Had [Stedman and I] made the official marriage commitment, we wouldn’t still be together. The reason the relationship works is that we get to define it on our terms. It would be very different if we were in a ‘traditional’ relationship where I was expected to be a wife and every now and then cook a meal!
As bad as it may sound for a hopeless romantic like myself, I can totally agree with these statements. Especially after having gone through a divorce partially because the relationship was no longer “my idea” of what it should have been and now being in a long-term dating situation where there are no labels.
The truth of the matter is, when a person makes a commitment, their perspective on the relationship changes and their expectations become much higher than when they were just dating so when said expectations aren’t met, problems arise.
What are your thoughts???